John,
I'm a relative newbie to bonsai and have just joined a club several months ago. The club has its share of older people which is a phenonoma I think is understandable in our electronic, instant gratification society.
Any club is a cross section of all kinds of people, close minded, self centered, positive, negative, helpers, users, kind, unkind etc. A chain is only as strong as it's weakest link is a cliche that comes to mind.
However, one must participate in the club in an effective manner. I've been lucky enough to "fall in" with several members that are experienced, energetic and committed to pursuing the art. They also have great trees.
These folks have been kind, answered my questions and requests for design assistance and basically taken me in. These guys are also enthusiastic collectors and have included me. I also help in ways that I can, setting up, cleaning up and helping with any "heavy lifting."
I've met stingy people also and I say the heck with them. If I need to step out on my own to attend other events, no problem. I also reach out to experienced people outside the club.
In conclusion, I believe it's possible to get an education in the art if you look around, help when you can, spend money with various vendors and work at it. I also understand the disapointment of those that have run clubs for years with frustrating results.
Bottom line is that your education is your own responsibility. Step out of your paradigm if it doesn't work.
Thanks,
Augustine